“Sunlight After the Storm: Finding Joy in Small Moments”
Even on the grayest days, there are sparks of light: a warm cup of coffee, a child’s laughter, that first green shoot in spring. This post walks readers through simple daily rituals—morning gratitude lists, mindful walks, soothing herbal teas—that help reclaim joy after emotional upheaval.
He Stole My Light
“He never raised his voice. He never hit me. But somehow, piece by piece, he took everything—my confidence, my clarity, my joy. This is the story of how I lost myself in the silence of covert abuse... and how I found the strength to take my light back.”
"Why Do I Feel So Much Resentment? A Survivor’s Honest Answer"
When someone you trust and love repeatedly violates that trust—not with punches or screaming, but with silence, neglect, cheating, lies, and emotional erasure—it changes you. It leaves invisible wounds that don’t bleed but never stop aching. And that ache? It often becomes resentment.
“The Days I Took My Life Back”
When the silence ends, the real healing begins. This post is a deeply personal reflection on breaking the invisible chains of emotional abuse—the ones that linger long after you’ve left. It’s about remembering who you were before the gaslighting, the control, and the confusion. A story of coming home to yourself, one breath, one boundary, one brave step at a time. If you’ve ever felt like you lost your voice or your spark, this is for you.
Dear Neighbour, Our Once-Loved Friend,
I Thought I Was Dying—But It Wasn’t My Heart. It Was the Trauma.
At times, I could barely speak to you. The anxiety was so intense, I truly thought I was having heart failure. My chest would seize up, my hands would go numb, and my voice would disappear.
It wasn’t fear of you, exactly—it was fear of what had already been done. The gaslighting. The betrayal. The twisted reality that left me questioning my own mind while trying to protect my daughter from emotional chaos.
He didn’t just lie. He stayed to watch the damage. And I believe some part of him wanted to see how far I’d fall.
But I didn’t fall. I fought.
For her.
And I would do it all again to shield her from the yelling, the instability, and the slow erosion of peace that lived behind closed doors.
If the System Fails You, Speak Anyway
Our local authorities and justice systems desperately need training in recognizing these tactics. The laws are behind. The systems are blind. And survivors are paying the price.
Why Did My Covert Abuser Mistreat Me Worse after He Cheated
He Didn’t Just Cheat — He Turned Me Into the Villain.
After the betrayal, the abuse got worse. Not softer. Not apologetic. Crueler. Colder.
That’s what covert abusers do. They don’t just break your heart — they break your reality. They make you question yourself so they never have to face their own shame. And when they cheat, they often punish you for it.
A Year of Lies
“He cheated for a year. I blamed myself the whole time. Now I see it for what it was: betrayal dressed as indifference. I didn’t lose love—I lost a lie.” Carlin
“Emotionally Immature”
“Emotionally immature men don’t communicate—they punish with silence.
They don’t take responsibility—they twist your reality.
What you thought was love… was you doing all the emotional labor.”
— Carlin, Crazy-Maker: The Silent Abuse That Almost Broke Me
When the Veil Is Pulled Back
It’s the moment everything starts to make sense—and it hurts like hell, but it also sets you free.
If You Think You Know Him... You Probably Don't
People say, “He seemed like such a good guy.”
And I smile tightly, knowing how well he played that part.
But they didn’t see the version of him I lived with—the withdrawal, the gaslighting, the cold silence that hollowed me out.
If you think you know him, you probably don’t.
Grieving What Could Have Been
Grieving after emotional abuse is complicated. You’re not just mourning a person, you’re mourning a version of them that you once held onto with your whole heart.
Divorcing a covert narcissist is a very long road
They don’t let go.
Not because they love you, but because they hate losing control.
đź–¤ Getting Through a Mental Health Crisis: One Breath at a Time
Right now, I’m in the middle of a mental health crisis.
Not yesterday. Not last month. Now.
She Didn't Yell—She Disappeared
As a child, I learned to study her face like a weather map, trying to predict the next storm. Was she upset with me? With my father? With something at work? It didn’t really matter. If she was hurting, we all paid the price.
Destiny Swapping & Energy Swapping: Reclaiming What Was Always Yours
When Love Becomes Theft: Destiny & Energy Swapping with a Covert Narcissist
At first, it felt like connection.
Deep, intense, unspoken.
You thought you had found your person.
But slowly — almost invisibly — your energy, your identity, and your destiny began to slip through your fingers.
This is what it’s like to love a covert narcissist.
Why did I use name calling towards my abuser?
It’s a very human response to resort to name-calling when you’ve been deeply hurt, manipulated, or psychologically worn down—especially by someone displaying traits of covert narcissism. You likely weren’t just reacting to a single incident but to a pattern of invisible, insidious harm that built up over time: gaslighting, emotional withdrawal, blame-shifting, and invalidation.
Your Vibration Has Been Hijacked: Healing After Covert Abuse
The Path to Raising Your Vibrational Frequency After Abuse
Healing is not about “feeling good all the time.”
It’s about being in integrity with your true self.
The more you align with what is real and honest for you, the more your vibration rises naturally.
The Path Doesn’t Get Easier (But Faith Does)
Recently, I hit one of those moments where everything felt like it was coming undone.
Not just a tough day or a little hiccup—but a full-on, heart-sinking, “What is even happening?” kind of moment. One that makes you question all the things you’ve been working toward.
When the Financial Abuse Starts After You Leave
You made the brave choice to leave.
Now you deserve to live — not in survival mode, but in freedom.
If they’re still trying to punish you through silence, blame, or money — that says everything about them.
And nothing about you.