Divorcing a covert narcissist is a very long road

Not just legally, but emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically. It’s not just the end of a relationship—it’s the unraveling of years of manipulation, fear, gaslighting, and trauma bonding.

People think once you get out, it’s over.
That divorce is the finish line.
But when you’re divorcing a narcissist, it’s not an ending—it’s another battle.

They don’t let go.
Not because they love you, but because they hate losing control.

You’re not just separating your lives—you’re untangling from their image of you, from their lies, their smear campaigns, their flying monkeys…goons as I’ve called them. You’re fighting for your truth in a world that often still sees them as “the nice guy.”

They use the court system like a weapon.
They drag things out.
Hide money.
Lie.
Play victim.

They unleash their goons on you, create drama to hide their affairs.
Make you look unstable—because you’re the one finally falling apart after years of holding it all together.

It’s exhausting.
It’s lonely.
And some days, it doesn’t even feel real.

But here’s the truth:

You’re not crazy.
You’re not weak.
You’re in the fight of your life to reclaim your peace.

Divorcing a narcissist is a long road—but it’s also the road home.
Back to yourself.
Back to your amazing freedom.
Back to your voice, your joy, your peace & safety.

Keep going. Reach out for supports!
It’s not easy.
But it’s worth it. Carlin