She Didn't Yell—She Disappeared
As a child, I learned to study her face like a weather map, trying to predict the next storm. Was she upset with me? With my father? With something at work? It didn’t really matter. If she was hurting, we all paid the price.
Destiny Swapping & Energy Swapping: Reclaiming What Was Always Yours
When Love Becomes Theft: Destiny & Energy Swapping with a Covert Narcissist
At first, it felt like connection.
Deep, intense, unspoken.
You thought you had found your person.
But slowly — almost invisibly — your energy, your identity, and your destiny began to slip through your fingers.
This is what it’s like to love a covert narcissist.
Why did I use name calling towards my abuser?
It’s a very human response to resort to name-calling when you’ve been deeply hurt, manipulated, or psychologically worn down—especially by someone displaying traits of covert narcissism. You likely weren’t just reacting to a single incident but to a pattern of invisible, insidious harm that built up over time: gaslighting, emotional withdrawal, blame-shifting, and invalidation.
Your Vibration Has Been Hijacked: Healing After Covert Abuse
The Path to Raising Your Vibrational Frequency After Abuse
Healing is not about “feeling good all the time.”
It’s about being in integrity with your true self.
The more you align with what is real and honest for you, the more your vibration rises naturally.
The Path Doesn’t Get Easier (But Faith Does)
Recently, I hit one of those moments where everything felt like it was coming undone.
Not just a tough day or a little hiccup—but a full-on, heart-sinking, “What is even happening?” kind of moment. One that makes you question all the things you’ve been working toward.
When the Financial Abuse Starts After You Leave
You made the brave choice to leave.
Now you deserve to live — not in survival mode, but in freedom.
If they’re still trying to punish you through silence, blame, or money — that says everything about them.
And nothing about you.
After the Toxic Relationship Ends: What to Watch For
Leaving is brave. Healing is a process.
You deserve peace, respect, and love — starting with how you treat yourself.
Why Do They Use Silence?
When silence is used to manipulate, avoid, or punish, it’s emotional abuse — not love or maturity. Recognizing this is the first step toward protecting yourself.
"Leave at the First Sign of Silent Treatment"
Leave when the silence starts.
That’s not a pause. It’s a red flag.
"The Forgotten Conversation"
I stood in the kitchen, heart racing.
"You said you'd be home by seven," I told him, trying to keep my voice calm. “I waited for dinner. I even called you.”
"Why I Felt Like I Was Losing My Mind"
When every problem I brought up became my fault, this was the worst tactic he used on me because it would lure me into something I wasn’t event talking about, at 62, this was just crazy but I took the bait many many times. I almost lost my mind and in the end I was spinning, it took months to clear the crazies. I had to cut off all contact. …Carlin
"The Quiet Escape: Leaving a Silent Gaslighter"
Separating from a silent gaslighter requires a blend of emotional clarity, strategic planning, and self-protection. Silent gaslighting — a form of emotional abuse marked by withholding, stonewalling, and subtle manipulation — can be especially disorienting because it often leaves no visible scars but deeply erodes your sense of reality and self-worth. Here's how to proceed cautiously.
The Too-Friendly Syndrome: The Covert Narcissist’s Greatest Disguise
Covert narcissists often suffer from what I call the “Too-Friendly Syndrome.”
It’s a compulsive need to be seen as the nicest, kindest, most generous person in the room—but only when it benefits their image.
Mothering with Love and Awareness While Divorcing a Silent Gaslighter
Leaving an emotionally abusive relationship isn’t the end of the story—it’s the beginning of rewriting it. And as mothers, we’re not just reclaiming ourselves; we’re modeling for our children what love looks like when it’s honest, clear, and safe.
If You Never Felt Loved as a Child, How Do You Love Unconditionally as a Parent?(A Reflection from a Survivor of Silent Gaslighting)
When you've grown up—or lived for decades—inside relationships where love was conditional, confusing, or withheld, becoming a parent can feel like standing at the edge of a cliff with no map, no safety net, and no guide.
I was a victim of silent gaslighting—a kind of emotional abuse that doesn’t leave bruises, but instead erodes your trust in yourself over time. For over 20 years, I lived with someone who never hit me, only threatened once, never screamed, until the end—but who used silence, withdrawal, blame, and control to distort my reality. I lost track of who I was. I learned to second-guess everything. And slowly, I began to believe I didn’t deserve love at all.
So how do you parent after that?
In the End, I Reacted to the Abuse; When they only remember your response—but not the years that led to it.
The abuse was the cause.
The reaction was the consequence.
And healing—this messy, brave journey—is your choice.
I Didn't Know It Was Abuse Until I Couldn't Breathe Anymore
I didn’t have bruises. I didn’t flinch when he entered the room.
But I couldn’t breathe.
"The Way Things Never Were"
At first, it was little things.
The keys weren't where she left them. But maybe she was tired. Maybe she thought she put them on the hook, but really left them on the table. She laughed it off.
Finding the Traumatized Child Within
Finding the traumatized child within wasn’t about dwelling in pain. It was about making space for my own becoming. For allowing the truth of what was to meet the power of what can be.
The Loneliness of Waking Up
The loneliness of waking up is temporary.
It’s the in-between space where your old world no longer fits, and your new world hasn’t yet arrived. It’s sacred, even if it’s painful. Because it means you’re on your way.